“Crazy Love”

May 29, 2007

This is a film which is coming out or just out and is based on the true story of Burt and Linda Pugach back in the 1950s. It is about a man who was abused by his mother, married and an adulterer…then he met Linda and fell in love to the point of obsession.

Linda didn’t have good male role models…she met someone after Burt and got engaged.

Obsessed, Burt sent someone to her house to throw acid in her face…she was blinded. Later he married her and took care of her.

In my role of counselling and coaching clients who want to rekindle their relationship, I find that quite often it is past experiences that block them from having a full-on relationship with each other.

As I say in my book, I was sexually and physically abused as a child and took the scars of that…the anger and rage of it…into my marriage…it’s as if we take what happened in the past out on the one we loved…certainly crazy!

My ex-husband had his own issues and adultery was the route he took in our marriage.

I remember feeling so hurt that I couldn’t bear it so covered the hurt up with a rage that wanted to kill…yes, I wanted to smother my ex-husband one night when I lay awake with all these challenging feelings.

After our marriage ended, I remember him being so rageful towards me that he tried to strangle me…I was left with wealds on my neck.How can love turn into such violence? It does seem crazy! And yes there is a sense of madness.Clearly Linda, Burt, my ex-husband and I did not love ourselves…we did not have much self-worth or value…but this is so important and necessary for a wonderful relationship, as I and my clients have found.At the moment there is much being said about The Secret… the Law of Attraction…in fact to attract love from our loved ones we must first love ourselves…as we love ourselves in a real way…not a miserly, restrictive way…but inclusive way which then provides us with enough love to give it unconditionally without needing anything in return. But guess what, as we give love so do we receive it…another Law.

It is possible to rekindle your relationship no matter how bad it may seem or how crazy we might feel.

(c) copyright 2007 Anita Jackson, author of “Rekindle the Magic in Your Relationship ~ Making Love Workwww.rekindlethemagic.com

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