Is Love Ridiculous?

June 14, 2007

Well, is it?

Kelly Clarkson the young 25-year-old Grammy-winning singer is reported to have never been in love but, “I am very old-school, conservative in my thinking when it comes to relationships,” she says. “

Love is something you work at. It doesn’t come easily. There are going to be bad days. You are going to have to work at loving someone when they are being an idiot.”How wise she is. My daughter is her age and you will read in my book “Rekindle the Magic in Your Relationship ~ Making Love Work” that she is devoted to working at her relationship with her husband.

Haven’t we all be idiots at some time or another…there is no need to stop loving or caring just because our loved one is being one…you wouldn’t like it if they stopped loving you if you were acting like an idiot…afterall, that’s not all of you. Instead we need to say how we feel eg “I feel… when you act like this”.  Perhaps even give a therapeutic sandwich…by saying what you love about them, then something you would like them to do differently and then something else you love about them. Remember, you are the most important person in your relationship for you, so you must start with “I” and by staying with your feelings “I feel angry when you…” you are not putting any blame on your loved one. Blame really doesn’t work in a relationship.

Also let it go…once you’ve said what you need to say, don’t keep saying it…otherwise you could be perceived as going on and on like a long-playing record…nagging!

Focus on the good in your loved one…wouldn’t you love them to do that where you are concerned…so be the role model.  Don’t forget to tell them about their good points and be grateful for them. I bet you would feel wonderful if your loved one told you all your good points and how grateful they were.

Enjoy your relationship…it’s not a dress rehearsal…it’s the real thing.

(c) copyright 2007 Anita Jackson, author of “Rekindle the Magic in Your Relationship ~ Making Love Work” Go now to www.rekindlethemagic.com for a FREE chapter of my book

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