Balancing Business and Love

September 21, 2007

I have been asked this question:

How can you increase intimacy when two people who love each other loads, have heavy workloads, and their brains are always focused on the next steps in their business….

My Answer to the question is:

What I think you are saying is…both your businesses and your relationship are important to you…however you are putting all your focus on your businesses at the moment. I suspect you want to increase intimacy and maintain your “always focused on the next steps in their business”…unfortunately that’s not possible…in fact you might not like my answer because I’m going to tell you to take time out for you personally as well as your loved one.

It is so important to take care of yourself while building your business and your relationship…as I read your question, I could feel the pressure you must be under. Something has to give and you don’t want it to be your health, your business or your relationship…

Even if it is only 10 mins to meditate and 40 mins to exercise for yourself…that’s less than 1hr a day…DO IT.

As for your businesses, you must switch the light off, both physically and metaphorically, as you step over the threshold of your office (be it outside the home or at home), close the door and step into your romantic self…and totally focus on you and your loved one.

One exercise you could both do when you come together is sitting down opposite one-another and one of you starts talking about how you feel…maybe you need to offload something about work…it doesn’t matter what it is, as long as it’s important to you…it may be about your relationship.

The other one just listens, says nothing, doesn’t nod or shake their head, just listens with all of themselves…their heart, their ears, their body, their emotions, their mind and their intuition. Set a time limit…you might want to make it 5mins…if that seems too long to begin with…say, 2mins.

Then you swap over and the other one starts talking…do exactly the same thing as above.

At the end, take the same amount of time for each of you to take turns in feeding back to the other…saying what you heard, what you sensed, what you felt emotionally and physically and maybe what you imagined was going on for the other. If necessary, what you feel you could do to help, etc.

At the end of this, take the same amount of time again to discuss it further with each other…then you can get on with your romance and time for you.

Here’s to you loving and taking care of yourself first and then giving unconditional love to your loved one.

(c) copyright 2007 Anita Jackson, author of “Rekindle the Magic in Your Relationship ~ Making Love Work” 

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