Is there a way to guarantee you a perfect relationship?

November 7, 2007

Life goes up and down…this is normal…if everything went smoothly, I think we’d all be bored.

If you are a man, please transpose “him”, etc with “her” etc.

I believe you can have the relationship you want…you must put energy into it…you must know what you want…what is a perfect relationship for you? If you find yourself saying “I don’t want …(maybe, “him to shout at me” or maybe, “him to pick his feet”)” find the polar opposite, what you do want, because if you focus on what you don’t want, you’ll get more of that…you must focus on what you do want (maybe, “I want him to be calm with me” or maybe, “I want him to buy me flowers everyweek”)…be specific and see him being like this or doing what you want him to do.

Everyone’s idea of a perfect relationship is different…we are all different and need different things in a relationship…start to use your imagination and image how you want your relationship to be…you must feel it both physically and emotionally as well…so do some acting and step into the role in your image-world and imagine your loved one with you…notice how you feel emotionally, how you feel physically, what you can smell, taste, hear and touch and what you are wearing, especially what you have on your feet.

Start really acting in your everyday life like you do in the image…if you don’t have a loved one right now, pretend you have one and act like this with everyone …except of course if your image is about making love…then you probably won’t want to practise this with everyone! But there again you might! :). There are no rights or wrongs…it really is whatever you want in your relationship and/or how you want your relationship to be and/or how you want to be and/or how you want your loved one to be.

If you have difficulty knowing what you want, watch and think of some films or plays you’ve seen where you have thought “I’d like that in my love life” or “that’s the way I’d like my loved one to be” or “I want to be like that” or something along those lines.

You may have read a book in which there is a couple in a scene you like…what did you like…is it something you’d like to be or have.

Don’t forget you may have friends who have the relationship you’d like…or you may like bits of their relationship…you can piece lots of good bits of relationships together.

So, to recap…you must know what you want…image how you want your relationship to be…act as if you are in that relationship…make sure you use all your senses and faculties.

(c) copyright 2007 Anita Jackson, Speaker, Counsellor/Psychotherapist/Coach and Author of “Rekindle the Magic in Your Relationship ~ Making Love Work”.

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