As a Wife, how do You Maintain Your Integrity as You Deal with a Very Delicate Male Ego, Without Compromising Who You Are?

January 25, 2008

You are right…you must maintain your integrity and never compromise your true self…stay true to who you are.

In Chapter 2 of my book, Being Who We Truly Are, you will see how I encourage you to vision what you really want your relationship to look like and keep holding the vision even when you are challenged by your husband. There is a complete exercise to follow through with. Not only will you find this chapter in my book but you can get it for free when you sign up for my Weekly Advice and Action Steps.

I want you to hold the vision, as I’ve said, and to step into the role of you in the vision…see what it feels like when you actually have the relationship how you want it to be…then start being that person in real life.

At the same time, you must use “I” statements and say how you feel emotionally when you want to discuss something with your husband…it will go something like this…”I feel angry/hurt/sad/enraged/pain/miserable/confused/etc when you say/do … and what I would prefer you to say/do is …”

 Of course you can use the good feelings when you praise him and are grateful for other things he does/says. This is imperative…you and I thrive on gratitude, praise and love…in fact babies die if they don’t get love.

It doesn’t matter how small it is, thank him and tell him how good you feel…washing the dishes, digging the garden, wiping his feet, putting the top on the toothpaste…thank him…even hugging you, taking notice of you, etc.

Staying with you is the only way, whether your husband has a delicate male ego or not.

(c) copyright 2007 Anita Jackson, Speaker, Counsellor/Psychotherapist/Coach and Author of “Rekindle the Magic in Your Relationship ~ Making Love Work” at http://www.rekindlethemagic.com

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